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The Art Of Letting Go When It Hurts

The Art Of Letting Go

There are times in our lives when we have the difficult choice of ending friendships, relationships, career opportunities, and more. But how can we best work through the aftermath of the pain, hurt, and guilt that arises afterwards?

The art of letting people go is a difficult one, but also an important one. It’s important to recognize that it’s not always easy, and it’s normal to feel pain, hurt, and guilt afterwards. 

When we experience discomfort, it is a normal reaction to seek comfort by reducing the pain. However, if we learned how to be present in the emotions, physical state, or mental state, then we would learn that the pain is what comes before healing. 

It’s important to approach the situation with compassion and understanding, both for yourself and for the other person. Some of us can have compassion for everyone else but when it comes to ourselves forget it! If this is you, then believing that you are worthy of love, kindness, and compassion (as much as you so freely give to others) is the first step. Then learning how to be kind to yourself comes next. 

It can be helpful to talk to a trusted friend or therapist about your feelings, and to seek out advice from someone who can offer an objective perspective. It’s also important to give yourself time to grieve and process your emotions, and to take care of yourself in the aftermath. 

When we are unable to go through the pain then it will inevitably find us again. Whether it's in a new relationship, a random trigger, or a nagging feeling. There is a reason why we learn about triggers and how they impact us. Triggers are sensory reminders that cause painful memories or certain symptoms to resurface. My new blog post will be all about triggers so be sure to stay tuned!

Finally, know that it’s possible to move on from difficult situations and to find peace and joy again. And that you do not have to do this alone. There are resources out there to help, sometimes we just must ask.

What to do if I keep running back to the same person or situation even though I know that it's not good for me?

It can be extremely difficult to break away from a person or situation that you know is not good for you. However, it is important to take steps to protect your mental and emotional wellbeing to move forward. 

First, take a step back and evaluate why you are continually returning to the person or situation. Are you feeling lonely or scared of being alone? Are you looking for validation or approval? Understanding the root cause of your behavior can help you to make positive changes. 

Second, it may be helpful to build a strong support system of people that you trust who can provide you with a safe space and understanding. Building meaningful relationships with friends and family can help to fill the void that you may be trying to fill with the person or situation you keep returning to. 

Third, engage in activities that provide you with a sense of satisfaction, such as hobbies or volunteer work. This can help to encourage self-esteem and provide a distraction from the person or situation that you are trying to move away from. 

Finally, don't be afraid to reach out for professional help if you feel overwhelmed. A mental health professional can provide valuable insight and support as you work to break away from the person or situation that is not good for you.

What to do if you struggle with letting go?

If you struggle with letting go, it can be a difficult and emotional process. It is important to recognize that it is a natural part of life and make sure to focus on self-care and find ways to cope with difficult emotions. It can be helpful to focus on the present moment and learn how to practice mindfulness. This can help to slow down your thoughts and emotions and allow you to move through them more easily. It can also be helpful to create a support system of friends and family who can listen and provide comfort and understanding. 

 I am sending you peace your way today.


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